Among the hundreds of thousands of Italians who attend clubs for open couples, they are the real news. A sign of greater freedom in the obsessive relationships or research of the extreme?
Icorda the joke of the Commendator Bestetti? It was one of the battle horses of the Cav., Silvio Berlusconi, recycled by the former CEO of Fiat Cesare Romiti in the version of the “Accounting Fucking”. Therefore, it is the story of a cumndagreat visitor to night and prostitutes who are forced to bring us his wife «brute, vicia and bad ».
Here, the cumnda And the escort: great “topos” of the Italian couple exchange (that is, the astute merlo who brought the whore to exchange it with the partner of another, ended regularly in a sad pitched with two paid girls) is disappearing. Once twisted on the sofas of Buie Provincial Houses transformed into places of clandestine pleasure, you found backets and pancere, sucking and cellulite, gagliardi pensioners and extra-large matrons. Today the era of the blast is (almost completely) set. In Italy, according to the ASX-Assolocal Association, there are 700 thousand and three million swingers who attended a libertine club at least once. And after the pandemic the average age has significantly lowered. Now in the over 400 alcoves that welcome the swingers tribe there are twenty -year -olds.
Other than equipped, modern and luxurious local below, Where international DJs and refined Burlesque shows perform and where you can have dinner by the pool. You only enter if you have been selected and with a rigid “dress code”. They will ask you for the photos (and you will not be able to pretend to be Brad Pitt, if you are Barbapapa). The couples you will find are mostly women in high heels with depilated men, beautiful, well -kept and gym: “After Covid, the influx of boys has increased. Perhaps it is due to restrictions and a new desire for sexual freedom. Young people approach as a fast food. They have a more playful, less busy approach »says Genni, owner of the flirtation, at the gates of the capital, a villa with seven hectares of park, organic vegetable garden, refined furnishings, elegant dinners and the possibility of stopping to sleep.
“At midnight, when the bell rings all women have to undress remaining only in lingerie.” And men? “Dresses, seeing them in shoes and socks was everything but erotic.”
If once the girlfriends were dragged into the I leave To please the curious partner, today they are the ones who begin “the game”.
«When I entered this world 30 years ago I saw wives out of the clubs, crying. The emotions that are felt are strong, for a fragile couple can be deleterious »say Sandra Voltan and Davide Lorenzi, respectively president and vice -president of the Krystal Club of Vicenza, among the most beautiful and frequented Privé. Veneto, from the time of Pietro Germi in Ladies and gentlemenis gold medal for fun. «20 years of girls who absolutely know what they come to do. Often they are the latest to get out of the dark room. It is the generation grown with YouPorn. They all live in a simpler, fluid way, without suffering big emotional jolts. Maybe without getting too excited ». On Saturday evening over 150 couples are found. You dance and then the night slips away between rooms for the Gangbang, “Glory Hole”, beds enclosed in golden cages. Condoms on the bedside table and immaculate cotton sheets. «We didn’t want the spa for hygienic issues. And then bathrobe, slippers and hair pliers are not in my sexual imagination »continues the blonde president, who is a pharmacist. So away in Guêpière towards an unbridled descent in the abyss of the senses and perversion? Macché: «The boys come to Krystal after the pizza. Once we were thinking about it before we decided, “he concludes.
Opaque and impersencrutable, the gentz seems to live as if nothing really could cross the surface. But the performance anxiety devours them, they consume cialis and viagra as if they were mentally. Growing up at porn, Rocco Siffredi and unreachable sexual performances, no longer know what a normal relationship is. Everything is overloaded, extreme. Sometimes it can be fine, others don’t. And you hurt yourself, really.
Yet they were the ones who cleared the “swinger” world, That between Dating & Exchange apps, online communities, themed parties, events launched on Telegram, transgressive white weeks or weekends in Slovenia and “all inclusive” Puglia (always sold out, with piled up for more than 200 couples) seems definitively cleared through customs. «From a certain point of view it is evil. There should be graduality in approaching certain experiences. If you start making couple exchanges at twenty years, at forty what do you invent? ” Fabrizio Zanoni, writer and journalist specialized in alternative sexuality, wonders. «Finding in clubs is now frequent, they have a casual approach. I remember the first time I entered it. I had my heart in my throat. It was a sort of carboneria. Today we go like in the cinema. Everything is normalized. Sex no longer has the transgressive, sinful component. The “strange famous” has vanished ».
There is no more charm, nor mystery. The times of Detention mailthe newspaper of erotic advertisements for the eighties proto-school. And he also attached a VHS with amazing videos made in dining room. The whole path was a Leopardiana waiting for the party. You had to have a stop, take the osé photos (with your face covered), go to develop them (at least 50 kilometers away so as not to have the topless wife recognized on the beach). Then without cell phones he expected the phone call at home, where privacy was usually zero. The times were biblical, they could pass even six months since everything started.
Continue Zanoni: «Today in a few seconds you have a contact. I don’t find it beautiful, but maybe I’m old now. I understand that they are curious, at twenty years “you really are stupid” as Francesco Guccini sang. But the sexual and psychological maturity is not there. In them I see almost bored automatisms as a sixty year old could have after years of parties and parties. In a world of ostentation, where sex is now an exchange commodity, it will roll towards this scenario ». A contradictory scenario. On the one hand, the latest research tell of a fluid and virtual generation little interested in sex. On the other it seems to have returned to the joyful freedom of the seventies: «We are experiencing a sexuality in decline, increasingly linked to technology. The desire is falling. Yet there is a great desire to transgress “explains Fabrizio Quattrini, sexologist, president of the institute of scientific sexology in Rome. «Exchange is a game, but if you don’t clear the rules, the couple risks a lot. It is easy to find yourself at the mercy of jealousies. The most fragile are the males, who have lost power in front of the women who decide ».
The psychotherapist recalls a boy who had convinced his partner to follow him in a club. «He cried, only in a corner, while she was having fun. He didn’t know how to manage the situation. ”
By now the clubs are multifunctional, many have expanded the part dedicated to well -being. There are numerous Naturist oases, while once there was only the French Cap d’Agde, a world destination for swingers. Today the spa and Austrian nudist wellness centers are five stars. The historian Mooncity remains in Pigalle, where only one sarker must be worn to enter. It seems to be in Thailand, but there is more cleanliness over there. In Turin Walter Amerio, owner of the best deposit of the city, the Hollywood, two thousand square meters of “pleasure dome”, is building the Tantra, the first naturist oasis of northern Italy. «I am critical, I no longer see a libertine, but rather mercenary world. It focuses on the quantity. There is little education and a lot of ignorance, the kids enter us thinking they are in any disco. And then there are still too many brothels disguised as Privé with escorts and couples paid to attract the individuals »he says. Not everything is gold, like the one who sparkles in the Killing Kitten parties, highly anticipated events from the international elite (remember: also in swingers there is the class struggle) created by Emma Sayle, an English entrepreneur friend of Princess Kate. Masks, oysters, champagne and high finance.
At the center of Rome, on the other hand, there is the historic Swingers Club 69. Just go down a staircase and open the doors of pleasure. A red and black boudoir (erotic aesthetic is always inspired by the marquis de Sade), eighteenth -century paintings, veiled lamps, mirrors and candles. A beautiful girl in evening dress bitterly with her partner on the red velvet sofa, while an elegant man looks at her. A hidden lineup brings to a bedroom where during the weekend the turnout is almost equal to that of Ikea at Anagina. The atmosphere is relaxed and the master of ceremonies appears among the soft lights: Augusto Pistilli. Thirty-five years of experience, the Treccani of Swan, president of ASX-Assosex, an association that has one hundred Privé around the Belpaese and more than 250 thousand active cards. He was the first to inaugurate the famous Loconda villa in Grottaferrata in ’92. Place of sinned sin to the masses, where the soft pornstar Jessica Rizzo was godmother. Glorious period of a sweaty and true sex, perhaps more fun. Because in the swelling of the anti, transversal and democratic, an orgasm was not denied to anyone. Today the obsession with the bodies has also invaded the Swinger world, where to appear sexy is more important than really being it. “At the beginning it was a sport for fans of the genre. Then in 1992 I opened Grottaferrata. There had never been anything like that, “he says. «Since 2010 the barriers have fallen. And the game now goes on 24 hours a day. As in Bologna where we have created an oasis of 50 thousand square meters, which brings up to a thousand people over the weekend. A free and libertine space. Where you play, even in Beach Volley. The stigma no longer exists ».
In the desire the law of lack applies, wrote Pasolini. And the greatest lack that applies into a private deposit is above all one: the mobile phone required at the entrance. What happens later remains only for those who are there. How wonderful. If not, you imagine the gallery of Chiappe Spartiate that we should put on every Sunday morning … n
